Parents:
When you get angry at your child...
When you get angry at your child you may think you are teaching them a lesson, but what do you think is going on in the child's head?
The child is thinking, what did I do wrong again? am I going to get hurt? I don't know what I did, I always mess up, does mommy and or daddy still love me? why am I not good, I don't know how to be good.
This cycle continues and affects the child even more in a negative way. Instead try and use positive re-enforcement without using any negatives but turning the situations into a positive.
家长：
如果你生气了…
如果因为孩子你生气了，你可能在想我如何做才能给孩子一个教训。但你知道孩子们的小脑袋里在想什么吗？
小脑袋瓜里在想，我又做错了吗？我会受伤吗？我不知道我又做错了什么，为什么我总是做不好？爸爸妈妈还会爱我吗？为什么我没别人那么优秀，可我又不知道如何做好。
这个循环一直持续以至于负面影响了孩子们。何不尝试以更积极正面的方式来影响孩子们呢？
Perfection Doesn't exist...
As a parent, if you want your child to be perfect, you are setting them up for failure. Who defines what perfect is or isn't? Perfection doesn't exist, we can only improve and get better at something but to be perfect is the biggest lie you can tell your child. They will keep chasing "perfect" but will eventually understand they will not achieve it because the idea of perfection doesn't exist.
Let's encourage our children to do their best and enjoy doing what they do. Happiness is a form of perfection in our eyes.
完美主义并不存在…
作为家长，如果从一开始你就想打造一个完美的小孩，那你可能从一开始就输了。如何去定义一个人是否完美呢？完美主义并不存在，我们只能变得更好，但若说要求完美，一定是对孩子说的最大的谎言。他们会不断地追求所谓的“完美”，最终迷失自己，久而久之他们会发现，世上并无完美一说。
还不如鼓励孩子去做到最好，并享受正在做的这个过程。
快乐便是完美的一部分。
